When you are serious about your wholeness, you are filled with love, peace and happiness, and no matter what happens in life, you will regain your zeal to continue living in wholeness. You are whole because you love yourself; and because you love yourself, others find it easy to love you too! If others find it hard to love you, evaluate how much you love yourself. People tend to give you what you give yourself. Life delivers many experiences that can chip away at your wholeness, such as the emotions of fear, sadness, anger, jealousy, envy, lack, abandonment and rejection. Emotions like these would love to stay and eclipse you and your purpose for life. But, when you are whole, these types of emotions only pass through, taking nothing away from you and your purpose. When life brings about challenges, it is your choice to keep your love for wholeness, and all that it has to offer, in mind. If you choose to allow your emotions to take prevalence in your life, emotions will run wild and will take over your mind, Spirit and eventually, your life.
The key is LOVE. Do you love yourself enough to tell yourself the truth about emotions you experience? When emotions approach your life, do you accept them or disguise them? Emotions are real, accept them rather than judge them. If you judge yourself for having emotions caused by experiences, you are exchanging your wholeness for temporary emotions that are meant to pass through, not to stay. By judging yourself for feeling a certain way, you hinder the ability of this emotion to pass, giving it a home in your heart, allowing your wholeness to be compressed and compromised. Allow emotions to have motion. When you are sad, it is okay to be sad. When you are angry, it is okay to be angry. When you are fearful, it is okay to be fearful. The key is, not to wallow in your emotions as if they intend to be with you permanently, remember, they are only passing through. Don’t try to mask your emotions in order to protect your wall of strength that you’ve built up for yourself. Masking emotions in order to stay strong is counterproductive, because the more emotions that you harbor in, more space in your heart is required. When your wholeness is depleted, your Spirit is poor and will be in constant need of wholeness. When your Spirit lacks wholeness, your relationships with people will suffer greatly because you will depend on others to make your life whole.
When you begin to alter the process of emotions, it is similar to chasing one bee into a beehive of many bees; the hive is disturbed and all the bees are coming out to protect the hive. Emotions that are only passing through will simply pass through, unless you fight against it, in which case, more emotions will come out to fight for a spot in your life. When you tell yourself that you should not feel a certain way, you are judging yourself, which bring on more emotions, and this can leave you feeling incomplete. When you accept the reason for feeling a certain way, you are taking ownership as the manager of that emotion and you have the right to say when it should leave your heart. Emotions that are judged instead of managed will take away from your joy, and can hinder your purpose for life. If you decide right now, today, to make a choice to allow your emotions to simply pass through, then you will find yourself living life feeling whole and free. If you need help with learning how to manage your emotions, you are invited to schedule a one on one coaching session with a certified life coach that can help you, help you.